Once you accept that people have a need for interdependence: Then in any dance of two, there is one that holds the structure and another that makes the magic.
One holds the frame, makes the space, marks constraints. And the other moves and creates within that.
To truly dance, is to notice what is being created: To take it, accept it, and expand it. The duality is this: That the act of expansion is a new act of creating. The one holding the frame gets to use that, to change what space is being held.
In this way, dancing is an ever-expanding, interdependent, exploration of possibilities.
When you find a dancing partner that can do this with you: Notice it, accept it. Expand on it.