How to do values
My granddad valued respect. Deeply and with conviction. I got that from him - I too value respect.
As a kid to respect my granddad was simple "be seen, but don't be heard". That is what kids were supposed to do.
In his house was a formal sitting room. Once a ball I was playing with rolled in there, and I was dead scared to enter that room. Because that would have disrespected his wishes.
This is not how I want to do respect with the kids in my life.
Shared values, different expressions.
I find it useful to ask "how can I do respect for you?". The answers always surprise me.