Give them the benefit
A friend in the business of interpersonal connections has a complete lack of care and/or ability to be polite. He does not soften the edges in conversation.
Phones calls are answered brusquely. A "yes" sometimes, mostly just "what". Conversations end with him just walking off. They start mid-sentence.
Another introduced me to him. This friend warned me and prepared me: "It is his way, he comes across as rude, give him the benefit."
He is not rude, nor unkind. He breeds show cats and I once saw him whip out his phone, cooing over photos with another owner.
When I connect him to others, I do the same preparation: "Give him the benefit".
I wonder if I am given the same? And I wonder if I give it to others?